"After spending tens of thousands, or hundreds of thousands, of dollars on elementary school, secondary school, college, admissions exams, applications, etc., is it any wonder that parents feel significantly invested in their kids' success?
I understand that some of this behavior is ridiculous, but allow me to play devil's advocate for a second: is behavior necessarily inappropriate just because it is new to this generation?
One more thought: as we all know, wealthy and connected parents often call on their friends and professional networks to help their kids get jobs. So why is it always wrong when less wealthy parents try to vouch for their kids?"
It's not so outlandish to think that America's love affair with extreme individualism will have to alter a bit to accomodate the challenges of the 21st century, and that includes families being more economically dependent on one another, and invested in each other's success.
Still and all, parents have a difficult task to pull back and accept that their offspring must flail and fail on their own in order to become adults.